How many of us compare ourselves to other moms and how they are doing it all? I realize some of us can handle more than others, yet I feel like so many woman try to act like they are holding it all together when inside they are a hot mess! Including myself. I put myself through so much hell trying to always be perfect. Why?? To impress people that probably didn’t even really care about me or my family life. I had to learn the hard way to break free from this unhealthy thinking. It wasn’t until my anxiety hit an all time high that I finally considered getting some therapy as at the time I didn’t even now it was “anxiety”. I didn’t understand what it was at the time and I thought there was something really wrong with me. I did not feel like myself anymore.
After several session with a good therapist I have come to know myself like never before and I am forever changed and grateful. A lot of how we live our lives has to do with how we were brought up. It took me some digging into my childhood to recognize some behaviors I was raised around to help me understand why I always tried to have everything together while causing myself enormous stress. I look back with the mind I have now and I think man if I only knew then what I know now I could have played with the kids more or allowed them to play in the dirt more. I don’t live with regrets as I believe our life is a journey of constant learning and I believe I needed to go through that time to shape who I am today. However, I try to live my life now in the present moment, slower, more aware, more content, and at peace making my choices based upon love. I have learned to truly love who I am and you can too.
So many of us wonderful, beautiful woman settle for survival mode, instead of what they truly want. We should never compare ourselves to anyone else. Our life and our children, and our marriage is ours and no one else’s. It will come with the ups and downs that life brings and we don’t have to pretend it is perfect as the truth is no one is perfect and no life is perfect. We are all human beings that make mistakes and need to learn and grow from them. The best thing we can do is get in touch with who we truly are and slow down to live in the present moment with ourselves and with our families and the life we made. Take the time to listen really listen to our children and don’t compare them to “everybody else’s kids”. Love them for who they are and let them experience different things. I hear and see so many parents pushing their children. Yes, we sometimes need to be firm to help them keep on track moving in the right direction, but we can do this with loving gentle guidance. Our children just want to be loved and heard. They want to feel like they matter and what they think matters to us as well.
Moms we all need to get in touch with our true selves. We should not settle for “it is what is”. No, we are the strong navigators of our family. We need to take care of ourselves so that we can take care of our family. Take that time out for yourself. Don’t settle for a job you hate just for the money. Think about it, dream about it. What do you truly want? I am telling you, once you make best friends with yourself, no one can make you feel less than. It takes work and maybe writing in a journal your thoughts and when you go back to read them it will all make more sense. I understand there are hurtles such as a medical issue or finance struggles, etc, etc. There will always be “something” if we let there be something that stands in our way. Do not let anyone tell you that you can’t do something. Only you can be the judge of that. We need to get in touch with our truth, our soul and let our higher self guide us to joy, happiness, and health. I am with you on your journey. We are all in this together and remember next time you start to compare yourself, your kid, or family to someone else…try to stop right there, become aware and remind yourself. We are all unique and have our own special talents and journeys. We cannot possibly compare to anyone or anything else as we are all different and that is how it is supposed to be. Again, we are all different, so don’t bother to compare or judge, send good vibes instead. If you have been in a situation that someone is currently going through, offer your support. I am here to offer you mine always. I hope you have a beautiful day. Many Blessings -Marcia