Letting go of what is considered "normal"
I believe we are all weird in our own way. It is normal to be weird. So why do so many people worry about trying to be normal? How can we possibly put ourselves through that? I hear my kids say it all the time. Ugh, Mom that is so not normal. If I am dancing in the kitchen or telling my kids friends that I think their hair looks good, it's "not normal". For teens I get it, everyone is trying to fit in, but when we become adults why do we still feel the need to fit in? I say this because so many people do things based on what would be considered the normal thing to do. I wouldn't want anyone to think that I am weird. I worry what others will think of me. Why? Why do we care what others think of us? We will never get anywhere in life if we base all of our thoughts and ideas on what other people may thinks of us. We need to understand that not everyone is going to like us, or connect with us, but there are those that will! It is human nature. There will always be the ones that will connect and like us and there will always be the ones that won't. In anything we do, we need to remind ourselves of this. DO NOT WORRY about what other people think of you. I have been there many times. I would analyze why a person would look at me a certain way or the things that were said to me. It was absolutely exhausting.
I have learned that we are all the same in the way that we are human and living on this planet trying to find our way, and also that most of us want a life of happiness, fun, and to feel loved. However, we are all so very different as well and no one of us will be exactly be the same. That being said, there really is no normal. Do what you love and always try to give and be your best and if you can always give your best there is no need to analyze what people think of you. You know who you are and what you bring and if people can't handle that well than that's their loss. You keep going and don't look back. It's not always easy, but I have found that the people that I have crossed paths with that were unkind and rude have always been the ones that were very unhappy with their lives or with themselves always complaining about something hoping to take someone down with them. For every mean person I met there would always be a beautiful kind person just around the corner. We don't need to wonder why someone does not like us and work on trying to figure out how to make them like us. If we are kind and show them our best, than it's up to them to decide if they want to be a part of our world or not.
This will go back into loving yourself. Get to know the real you with all your goofiness, imperfections, talents, and dreams. Trust that person, you and never let anyone or anything come between you and your truth. Practice affirmations daily if it helps to really truly get in touch with who you really are and what you really want. Once you get a strong sense of who you are deep down, the child, the teen, and the adult all mixed together you won't accept anything less than the best as you deserve the best. We all make mistakes and we all have good days and bad, but we should never settle for something that is less than what we know we are. Don't sit there and shake your head up and down agreeing with co-workers while gossiping about another co-worker when you now know it is not right. Don't stay and sit there just to be "normal". Dismiss yourself and go for a walk outside in nature and breathe deeply as you remind yourself that it is okay if they think your weird for never wanting to gossip over coffee. You know your truth and it will serve you for the rest of your life.
May you enjoy getting to know yourself and loving your weirdness!
Here is an affirmation by Louis Hay that I love;
In the infinity of life where I am,
all is perfect, whole, and complete.
I no longer choose to believe in old limitations and lack.
I now choose to begin to see myself
as the Universe sees me-perfect, whole, and complete.
I will always be perfect, whole, and complete.
I now choose to live my life from this understanding.
I am in the right place at the right time, doing the right thing.
All is well in my world.
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Marcia